10 Things I Learned While 25

1. Maybe you're not as much of a mess to other people as you think you are. Maybe living is just messy for everyone and we're all running after ourselves, cleaning up as we go and knocking more shit over and hoping no one notices. And maybe you're doing a pretty good job at it.

2. Try not to contribute to your own problems-- a tall order, but when you realize your choices are making your situation worse, take some time to figure out how to minimize the damage instead of contributing. You'd be surprised how much you can fix.

3. Don't chase after anybody. If they're worth having in your life, they'll figure things out and come back on their own. If they don't, they're not ready and they might not ever be and that's okay.

4. Everyone is replaceable. It hurts but people will come in and out of your life like a revolving door and there is no one specific person that you need except yourself. Everyone else should be people who you choose to be with because you want to, because they make life more worthwhile.

5. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. It took me a while to really understand that cliche but what I've learned this year is that people will pay you a lot of lip service for a lot of different reasons, but what matters the most is their actions. So pay attention to what they do, not what they say.

6. There may be a reason why someone is treating you poorly, but that doesn't make it okay. So don't make excuses for them. You can understand them, and maybe in time you can forgive them, but don't excuse them.

7. Don't spend all of your time wishing things were the way they were in the past. Things will never be exactly the same, and if they were, you wouldn't be growing. Embrace the growing pains. They're going to be there for the long haul.

8. Likewise, don't spend all of your time fantasizing about your future. It's great to plan but remember you're living right now and you won't ever get this time back.

9. When you fall off the wagon, don't set the wagon on fire and stomp on the ashes. Go to bed and then when you wake up, crawl back into the wagon. Bring a wrench. Make adjustments. Try again.

10. Don't dwell on poor decisions you made. Don't berate yourself. You're growing all the time. We all do things we wish we hadn't. Maybe even more than once. Maybe several times. But eventually it gets through our thick heads and we try something else and that's a victory, so celebrate it.

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Written on 2018-05-08 at 21:24

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Jamsbo Rockda The PoetBay support member heart!
If you properly learned all these at 25 you are doing great :)

I think you learnt more than me at 25. Number 9 made me smile.