How not to complicate relationships

It happens all the time.
They end up with the wrong guy
getting into bed with the wrong man,
while their truest lover proves to be another
who resigns in bitter melancholy and frustration.
How then do they manage constantly to pick the wrong guy?
Is it that notorious frailty of a woman,
do they WANT to get seduced and laid by the wrong man,
are they so gullible and duped so easily,
or are they helpless victims, martyrs forced by rape?
I think the problem is to have to choose at all,
because in choosing one you must exclude the others,
and they are inevitably the majority.
The one who doesn't make a choice
but steers out clear of all the rocks
will still be able to keep all his loves
without disgracing anyone or letting any down,
spreading disappointment and frustration equally to all
and keeping all of them with faith, fidelity and love
in mastery of love's diplomacy and equilibrium.
That is how Queen Elizabeth kept all her wooers and adorers,
and a bachelor can never be accused
of maltreatment of any lady
until he starts favoring one to another.





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Written on 2015-10-30 at 15:29

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Maija Liepins
Wonderful. Thank you for finding words for this. I have always struggled with the idea of choosing to exclude, when the alternative you pose makes so much more sense, and is potentially so much more honest.
2017-01-11


Christian Lanciai The PoetBay support member heart!
How nice to hear from you again, Kathy! It's been a long time… I am not very frequent here any more, but every now and then I also make occasional revisits…
2016-04-07


Kathy Lockhart The PoetBay support member heart!
Great questions for which there is no one answer I suppose except yours. However, even that solution creates a whole other problem.

Enjoyed reading you today. It's been a very inspiring visit. I've missed your poetry, perspectives, and your personality. Kathy
2016-03-29