*copy of an article in The New York Times Sunday Review. I found it interesting and true. I am only quoting in part. It's long but worth the read, I think. :)

Women's Feelings*

Women are moody.
By evolutionary design,
we are hard-wired to
be sensitive to our
empathic to our
children's needs and
intuitive of our
partners' intentions.

This is basic to our
survival and that of
our offspring. Some
research suggests
that women are
often better at
articulating their
feelings than men
because as the
female brain
develops, more
capacity is reserved
for language,
memory, hearing
and observing
emotions in others ...

These are observations rooted in biology,

not intended to mesh with any kind of

pro-or-anti-feminist ideology. But they do have

social implications. Women's emotionality

is a sign of health, not disease; it is a source of power.

But we are under constant pressure to restrain our emotional lives,

We have been taught to apologize for our tears,

to suppress our anger, and to fear being called hysterical.

Obviously, there are situations
where psychiatric medications are
called for. The problem is too many
genuinely ill people remain untreated,
mostly because of socioeconomic factors,
thus end up self medicating, a normal reaction
to an unnatural set of stressors. ...

Written by Julie Holland, a NY psychiatrist.

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Jamsbo Rockda The PoetBay support member heart!
I believe this to be true only because of the roles that women have been in past and present forced to take on. These roles have been instilled into us by society and I believe now these stereotypes are changing. So while women may have have biologically developed in this manner there is no reason why men cannot do the same when roles be reversed. But it is an extremely interesting subject.

It's been my experience that men do feel things deeply, but express their feelings in different ways than women. As a boy, I was told early on that ''boys don't cry,'' and that pretty much stuck to this very day. Anyway, I've heard that mental health issues are getting more attention these days, so hopefully there will be more avenues for everyone to get help when needed. On a personal level, I think emotions are very important and should enhance, not deter, logical thinking. Just my opinion.

Lawrence Beck The PoetBay support member heart!
I disagree with this assessment. When women behave as described, that behavior is the result of environmental factors, not genes. My wife is a engineer, who has worked full-time since before any of our children was born. She's not emotional, nor is she particularly empathetic; ask those kids. I've been home with them for 25 years and probably come closer to have those "womanly" traits. And don't say anything about this to my friend, Natalie. She's a butch lesbian, and she'll kick your ass.

one trick pony The PoetBay support member heart!
as one who has something of a duality when it comes to gender, i've found, quite empirically, that the response to a woman's writing is noticeably different than that of man's, even if the poems are identical. the response is neither better nor worse, just different, and different in a way that reinforces ashe's "Women's Feelings" article.

just an observation.

Ashe The PoetBay support member heart!
I want to amend this with my own observations that I know many men who are sensitive, but on the matter of talking, I believe it is true, that women talk, women cry, women get hysterical, while often times guys just grunt and go for a walk, or sulk, or worse, shrug your shoulders in complete bewilderment, saying, "what did I do??"

Not to imply that men are not extremely articulate in their writing. :)

Brian Oarr
I've read that women, on average, speak approximately 5000 words a day, as opposed to a mere 2000 average for men. Besides feeling somewhat inferior as a result, I also recognize that this is the source of enormous power that women have to manage their worldly environment for the betterment of their beloved.