Handy generalization and custom made comment. Tis truer than true The earth is divided in two Almost always. Summer time here Winter time there and so on.

We all know how the seasons are but NOT how each of us(-for instance that live in the same part of the the earth) experiences them but how each of us experiences them doesn't(should not) make us who we are to each other.

"Come come to me oh winter so I can cuddle with a blanket close to the fire place!"

"Go away winter because of you I cannot enjoy the sea feel the sun on my skin!"

There is no difference between what those two actually experience!

The one finds it easier to find a substitute while waiting Compromise while feeling safe. Enjoys each moment "as it comes". The other one feels exposed to the "truth" of the winter Naked and Yearning Stuck in the frustration sweet memories bring while ignoring the heat it feels, inside the house.

What they have in common?The reality they experience: when something is out of one's control. Do they behave like that all the time? 1. Finding a solution 2.Feeling helpless  and 3: Who do you have feelings for 1 or 2?

If number 1 makes you feel happy then you choose what helps you survive and feel good? If number 2 makes you feel whole Enhances the way you feel Do you simply look around in order to find something that verifies the way you feel the reality you live in?

Who is a realist?
1?
2?
3?