The text is a part of my book of thoughts and tells about irrational love.
Although love is perfect as a phenomenon and by its origin and essence, in practice, a love relationship, because of inadequate morals and low irrational consciousness of partners, is reduced to passion and bears mere survival of a family through personal and historical developments and turns of events. Therefore, it can significantly cause indifference, because it does not essentially have the quality and significance different from the survival of the irrational consciousness, and, therefore, it is classified into the series of irrational phenomena in the system.
The perfect face of love, while adoring, has the other side that is the reflection of jealousy and hatred.
The irrational love is a relationship full of opposite and too intensive feelings, in which partners are not sincere and honest either to themselves, or to each other, and do not allow freedoms that they give themselves to the other side. It is the reflection of the irrational consciousness when expressing feelings.
The irrational people are not capable of realizing and keeping love, for they are not frank and do not give freedoms to the other side; they cannot control their own emotions and are not concentrated on the quality of relationship, but on the intensity of emotion and quantity of sexual intercourses.
Regardless the fact that we are not ready for love, or to deprive of anything in order to be closer to it, at the same time, we expect that we shall experience it and are very disappointed when we do not keep it. Realization of love in its full intensity is equal to realization of any other life aim, and one must greatly subordinate his/her life to it.
Not rarely, behind almost perfect looks, there can be found fairly earthly, calculated and loafer's behavior. In order to avoid the inappropriate sublime feeling toward anybody with similar characteristics, it is necessary to get to know the person first...
In the irrational relationships, people steal what they have the right to have and do not allow the same rights to the other side that they give themselves.
Irrational lovers are desirous of love, and, at the same time, cannot get closer to each other in the right way, and, then, they reject each other in order not to be emotionally too tied to each other, and so that it is not too painful and disappointing after the separation. That way, there happens the absurd situation that they become more reserved and distant to each other the longer they are together; and that they loved each other mostly in the beginning of the relationship, when they did not even live together.
However a woman were physically beautiful, and insincere and not interesting spiritually, that much her physical beauty fades and becomes uninteresting over the time. The relationship between two people cannot be reduced only to the physical attraction.
Irrational people try to reach the perfect feeling, and do not have in their mind the entirety and essence of their own beings and the relationship they are in; and, normally, the emotion cannot last. People think that they have not found the "right" person, and it is about that the "right" person is a dream as well as the perfect relationship, and that they irrationally strive for the impossible - perfection.
I am always ready to pay respect to the shining examples when love is really love, and living together every single day is the expression of beauty and understanding because of empathy..., and partners do not betray the feeling and each other as soon as they find themselves in a more difficult life situation, therefore, they stay together and find the solution for crises and problems without disturbing, but even with strengthening their own relationship. Before the feeling, I kneel as before the God.
For the man, too intensive feeling of love is like the flame of a candle for a butterfly, as beautiful as dangerous.
In the irrational love relationship, emotion is often the means of manipulation, neither the aim nor reality; and two opposite emotions cancel each other, and there is only left passion.
Insisting on absolute fidelity gives the excellent basis for jealousy. We are inclined to expect even adoration from the others and to give ourselves all freedoms in practice.
Not giving freedom in love (and absence of freedom in life) means presence of idealism, domination and possession, regardless the reasons and justifications.
Because of unreadiness for a better relationship and the presence of the uncontrolled energy, love turns into its opposition - hatred.
Pointing out the fact that women often express unsophistication, aggressiveness and the desire for dominance, and even hatred toward men, regardless the justification, because of the unjust position of women in the past, it should lead to the progress and that women should give up the aim of dominance and possession in the relationship with men.
Behind the tendency for absolute and ideal fidelity of lovers, there is hidden enormous jealousy. It is possible that, behind the tendency, there is hidden the desire for possession, power and material safety.
In the system of survival, marriage has the economical character in the foreground.
Sad, the woman is, who must seduce the other men in order to provoke any emotion and passion in her husband. About him, it is needless to say anything.
In the system of survival, where it is difficult to survive, somebody, who tries and realizes the emotion neglecting the mere survival is either the idealist or a cheater.
Since one strives for sexual and physical enjoyment immoderately, it is entirely normal for them to point out sexuality, physical quality and luxury on the level of existence exaggeratedly.
Lovers idealize each other in the irrational love relationship, and not only that they are not perfect, but also do not possess harmony in their beings and the relationship.
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Thoughts about Irrational Love
Although love is perfect as a phenomenon and by its origin and essence, in practice, a love relationship, because of inadequate morals and low irrational consciousness of partners, is reduced to passion and bears mere survival of a family through personal and historical developments and turns of events. Therefore, it can significantly cause indifference, because it does not essentially have the quality and significance different from the survival of the irrational consciousness, and, therefore, it is classified into the series of irrational phenomena in the system.
The perfect face of love, while adoring, has the other side that is the reflection of jealousy and hatred.
The irrational love is a relationship full of opposite and too intensive feelings, in which partners are not sincere and honest either to themselves, or to each other, and do not allow freedoms that they give themselves to the other side. It is the reflection of the irrational consciousness when expressing feelings.
The irrational people are not capable of realizing and keeping love, for they are not frank and do not give freedoms to the other side; they cannot control their own emotions and are not concentrated on the quality of relationship, but on the intensity of emotion and quantity of sexual intercourses.
Regardless the fact that we are not ready for love, or to deprive of anything in order to be closer to it, at the same time, we expect that we shall experience it and are very disappointed when we do not keep it. Realization of love in its full intensity is equal to realization of any other life aim, and one must greatly subordinate his/her life to it.
Not rarely, behind almost perfect looks, there can be found fairly earthly, calculated and loafer's behavior. In order to avoid the inappropriate sublime feeling toward anybody with similar characteristics, it is necessary to get to know the person first...
In the irrational relationships, people steal what they have the right to have and do not allow the same rights to the other side that they give themselves.
Irrational lovers are desirous of love, and, at the same time, cannot get closer to each other in the right way, and, then, they reject each other in order not to be emotionally too tied to each other, and so that it is not too painful and disappointing after the separation. That way, there happens the absurd situation that they become more reserved and distant to each other the longer they are together; and that they loved each other mostly in the beginning of the relationship, when they did not even live together.
However a woman were physically beautiful, and insincere and not interesting spiritually, that much her physical beauty fades and becomes uninteresting over the time. The relationship between two people cannot be reduced only to the physical attraction.
Irrational people try to reach the perfect feeling, and do not have in their mind the entirety and essence of their own beings and the relationship they are in; and, normally, the emotion cannot last. People think that they have not found the "right" person, and it is about that the "right" person is a dream as well as the perfect relationship, and that they irrationally strive for the impossible - perfection.
I am always ready to pay respect to the shining examples when love is really love, and living together every single day is the expression of beauty and understanding because of empathy..., and partners do not betray the feeling and each other as soon as they find themselves in a more difficult life situation, therefore, they stay together and find the solution for crises and problems without disturbing, but even with strengthening their own relationship. Before the feeling, I kneel as before the God.
For the man, too intensive feeling of love is like the flame of a candle for a butterfly, as beautiful as dangerous.
In the irrational love relationship, emotion is often the means of manipulation, neither the aim nor reality; and two opposite emotions cancel each other, and there is only left passion.
Insisting on absolute fidelity gives the excellent basis for jealousy. We are inclined to expect even adoration from the others and to give ourselves all freedoms in practice.
Not giving freedom in love (and absence of freedom in life) means presence of idealism, domination and possession, regardless the reasons and justifications.
Because of unreadiness for a better relationship and the presence of the uncontrolled energy, love turns into its opposition - hatred.
Pointing out the fact that women often express unsophistication, aggressiveness and the desire for dominance, and even hatred toward men, regardless the justification, because of the unjust position of women in the past, it should lead to the progress and that women should give up the aim of dominance and possession in the relationship with men.
Behind the tendency for absolute and ideal fidelity of lovers, there is hidden enormous jealousy. It is possible that, behind the tendency, there is hidden the desire for possession, power and material safety.
In the system of survival, marriage has the economical character in the foreground.
Sad, the woman is, who must seduce the other men in order to provoke any emotion and passion in her husband. About him, it is needless to say anything.
In the system of survival, where it is difficult to survive, somebody, who tries and realizes the emotion neglecting the mere survival is either the idealist or a cheater.
Since one strives for sexual and physical enjoyment immoderately, it is entirely normal for them to point out sexuality, physical quality and luxury on the level of existence exaggeratedly.
Lovers idealize each other in the irrational love relationship, and not only that they are not perfect, but also do not possess harmony in their beings and the relationship.
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Written on 2006-09-04 at 12:52
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