Thoughts of mine sparked off by a friend.
"Why can't life be simple? Why can people not say what they mean and mean what they say? It get you down, doesn't it. Isn't life complicated enough without all the he said, she said stuff?
Never mind Love Island, there should be a Truth Island, where if someone tells you something, you can trust them! Where if someone wants to invite you for a meal they just ASK you, not tell someone else and expect you somehow to find out BEFORE the event, not a week later!
And where you can say to someone, "Can I just get something off my chest? I felt you could have been a bit more caring and considerate when I was ill/worried/in debt/getting a divorce. I don't love you any less, but you made me feel a bit undervalued because you just stayed away when I needed some comfort. I know you find it hard to express yourself, but I understand that, and half a hug is better than no hug.....". And so on.
Be OURSELVES, be KIND, be .. well, be ... consistent, reliable, not unpredictable and certainly not spiteful. I know that is asking for perfection, but if we ask for perfection and get slightly less, at least we know people are trying.
I know I am rambling but I hope you understand what I am rambling about. I think, I hope, I try, to live up to those standards. I hope I can be a shelter in the storm most of the time, and if today is the day I can't, I hope I can at least be honest and say so, and why, so people do not feel rejected, but happy that I can admit my failings to them, so they can feel the joy of forgiveness. I would hope they could admit their failings to me, to give me a chance to forgive them."
I could be happy on Truth Island.
Words by Marie Cadavieco
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Written on 2019-08-02 at 23:24
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Truth Island
Well, tonight I had an idea for talking honestly about a very challenging topic, but a message from a distraught friend who struggles with a dysfunctional family of poor communicators sent my thoughts in an entirely different direction:"Why can't life be simple? Why can people not say what they mean and mean what they say? It get you down, doesn't it. Isn't life complicated enough without all the he said, she said stuff?
Never mind Love Island, there should be a Truth Island, where if someone tells you something, you can trust them! Where if someone wants to invite you for a meal they just ASK you, not tell someone else and expect you somehow to find out BEFORE the event, not a week later!
And where you can say to someone, "Can I just get something off my chest? I felt you could have been a bit more caring and considerate when I was ill/worried/in debt/getting a divorce. I don't love you any less, but you made me feel a bit undervalued because you just stayed away when I needed some comfort. I know you find it hard to express yourself, but I understand that, and half a hug is better than no hug.....". And so on.
Be OURSELVES, be KIND, be .. well, be ... consistent, reliable, not unpredictable and certainly not spiteful. I know that is asking for perfection, but if we ask for perfection and get slightly less, at least we know people are trying.
I know I am rambling but I hope you understand what I am rambling about. I think, I hope, I try, to live up to those standards. I hope I can be a shelter in the storm most of the time, and if today is the day I can't, I hope I can at least be honest and say so, and why, so people do not feel rejected, but happy that I can admit my failings to them, so they can feel the joy of forgiveness. I would hope they could admit their failings to me, to give me a chance to forgive them."
I could be happy on Truth Island.
Words by Marie Cadavieco
Read 634 times
Written on 2019-08-02 at 23:24
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